Care partners feel many emotions when a family member moves into a long-term care home. Some are relieved to share the care while others feel guilty, especially if promises were unkept. Some no longer know what role to play. But you have not lost your role; you are sharing the responsibility of care with others.
Now you can focus on giving him what only you can. You are once again his wife or son instead of his nurse, social worker, case manager and banker. You can also share your knowledge about his life, daily routines and your own coping strategies. Include these in his plan of care so that all who care for him have access to it.
Another option is getting involved with the Long Term Care Home’s Family Councils or Residents’ Councils. Both encourage mutual support among members, facilitate learning about issues related to Long Term Care and allow individuals with common goals and concerns to speak with a collective voice. These councils provide support with challenging situations like Responsive Behaviours. Speak to the administrator at your Long-Term Care Home for more information or consult reference list located at the end of this guide.
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“Moving a family member into a Long Term Care Home is not something you do to them; it is something you do for them.”
~Education Department, Alzheimer Society of Kingston, Frontenac, Lennox & Addington