Visiting someone

Friends, neighbours and extended family are important sources of support for the family. But uncertainty about what to expect may prevent some people from visiting a person with dementia. Here are some helpful suggestions for visitors.

• Arrange a convenient time for the visit
  Choose a time that is best for the person with dementia. Shorten the visit if he shows signs of fatigue.
• Communication is the key
  Use gestures as well as words. Pace the conversation, allowing time for her to respond.
• Introduce yourself
  If he seems confused, identify yourself and say why you are there. "It's Jane. I came to visit you today."
• Remember and laugh together
  Recall humorous experiences you both shared. "I remember when we both..." Take pleasure in each moment.
• Be prepared to listen
  People with the disease may want to share their feelings. Remain open and sympathetic.
• Establish connection through a common interest
  Continue your favourite activity together. Listen to music. Take a walk. Concentrate on the person's talents and abilities.
• Show that you care
  We all communicate through emotion, expression and touch. Holding a hand, or smiling when you talk can convey more than words.